Why Divorce Rate is Increasing so much in India?

Why Divorce Rate is Increasing so much in India?

What's going on in India man?? 

I am an Indian and as a Indian it concerns me about the current divorce rates. Whenever I open my social media accounts whether it is Facebook, Instagram or X, after every 10 post I can see a divorce case. Celebrities are getting divorced as well as common people too. Earlier people lived happily after marriage . When I look at my parents , they have maintained the same love and respect among each other. 

But look at recent times relationships and marriages. It's a complete mess. Either people have lost all their patience and loss the ability to forgive small mistakes or they are creating conditions and finding all the qualities in one person which is not possible. 

Everyone invests their time to find the best partner in their life but how to know if he/she is best?. After marriage when you find that he/she is not the one whom you are searching then divorce happens but it ruins the reputation and mental health between both the side and sometimes the situation can be critical from any of the side which results to Depression or Suicide. 

According to me this is why suicide rates are increasing rapidly, 

1. Changing Social Norms

• Modern Mindset:

 People have modernized everything and they are getting more exposure to Western Culture due to which they are focusing more on individual happiness and societal reputation instead of understanding situations of their partner and solving the problem. Instead of solving the problem they run away to create another problem. See individual happiness is important but when you are in a relationship or marriage its more about "US" not "I".

• Empowerment of Women: 

I definitely support women empowerment but there are some feminist in this world who have no idea what feminism is. I am not talking about all women's but there are some who just talk about equality but only wants privileges. 

Financial independence and education have given women the courage to leave toxic or unfulfilling marriages. If the relationship is toxic then without 2nd thought you can over the relationship but just to look cool or looking at others lifestyle please don't take such a big decision.

2. Increased Expectations

• Social Media Influence: Platforms like Instagram and Facebook portray picture-perfect relationships, creating unrealistic expectations of love and marriage. When reality doesn't match, dissatisfaction grows.

• Romantic Idealism: 

Now some people think that the partner will remain romantic everytime but the fact is everyday is not the same. This is life and everyone has a good day and a bad one. So if its a bad day then how can someone stay romantic? At that time instead of thinking he is not romantic anymore or he has lost interest , you must support him/her ,understand and try to find a solution. That will not only create good understanding but it will also take your relationship to great heights.

3. Reduced Tolerance and Patience

• Low Conflict Resolution Skills:

As I have spoked above, People now a days wants to be more positive which is good. But people are not applying in terms of relationships and marriages. They lost patience and does not want to solve problems. If there is any problem just leave the partner and search for a different one.

• Individualism Over Compromise:

 Modern lifestyles promote individual growth and personal goals, making it harder for couples to compromise.

• Intolerance to Mistakes: 

Earlier small issues that were once overlooked or resolved and at recent times it is seen as dealbreakers. Forgiveness has taken a backseat in some cases.

4. Economic Factors

• Financial Independence: 

Both men and women are financially independent, reducing the economic dependence that previously held marriages together.

• Alimony as a Factor:

 While alimony might play a role in some cases, it's not a significant driver for divorce. However, it can provide financial security for the dependent spouse to leave a troubled marriage. And in recent times we can see the case of Atul Subhash. Alimony is not bad I would say but using it as business or misusing it is dangerous.

5. Urbanization and Work Stress

• Fast-Paced Life: 

Urban couples, especially those in nuclear families, often face high work stress and less time for each other. So no time for your partner means less bonding and the marriage get ends soon.

• Loss of Joint Family Support: 

In joint families, elders used to mediate and resolve conflicts. With nuclear families, couples are left to deal with problems on their own.

6. Legal Accessibility

• Simplified Divorce Processes: 

Divorce laws have become more accessible and less time-consuming, making it easier for couples to opt for separation.

• Mutual Consent: 

With increasing awareness of legal rights, couples now have the option to file for mutual divorce without prolonged legal battles.

7. Compatibility Issues

• Shorter Courtship Periods: 

Many marriages, especially arranged ones, are rushed, giving couples little time to understand each other's personalities and compatibility.

• Unrealistic Compatibility Assumptions: 

Love marriages can also fail when couples realize they lack compatibility after marriage.

8. Infidelity and Temptation

• Access Through Technology: 

Dating apps and social media provide platforms for extramarital affairs, creating rifts in marriages. Anyone can get matched and start dating in single click. In short people have more options .

• Evolving Views on Fidelity: Attitudes towards fidelity and relationships have evolved, sometimes leading to conflict.

9. Mental Health Awareness

• Prioritizing Mental Well-being: 

People are increasingly recognizing the toll toxic relationships take on their mental health and are willing to walk away for their peace and that's a good thing. If people are separating because of this reason then there is no problem if divorce rate is increasing

• Less Fear of Judgment: 

With more openness about mental health, individuals feel more confident in leaving emotionally abusive or draining relationships.

10. Globalization and Cultural Shifts

• Decline in Tolerance for Gender Inequality: Many women now refuse to tolerate patriarchal or oppressive behavior from their spouses or families.

Is the Increase in Divorces a Bad Thing?

While a rising divorce rate may seem alarming, it also reflects positive societal changes:

• People are prioritizing their well-being and happiness over societal pressures.
• Women are empowered to leave abusive or unfulfilling marriages.
• Couples are choosing quality over quantity in their relationships, striving for meaningful connections rather than enduring toxic dynamics.

But if divorce is done without looking at all the factors but because of normal mistakes then I am sorry to say the rate will keep increasing.

How Can the Issue Be Addressed?

• Premarital Counseling: Helping couples understand each other's expectations and personalities before marriage.

• Emphasis on Communication: Educating couples on conflict resolution and the importance of open communication.

• Support Networks: Providing accessible therapy and counseling for struggling couples.

• Managing Expectations: Encouraging realistic views about marriage through media, schools, and family discussions.

• Balancing Individual and Family Goals: Couples need to find a middle ground between personal growth and marital harmony.

Conclusion

I have explained all so don't marry if you are not ready and if you are ready then grow yourself and also think growing along with your partner. Be patience in difficult times. With better communication, understanding, and mutual respect, many of these issues can be addressed.

Thank you very much .

I hope you guys agree with me and if you want to add more to it , simply leave a comment in the comment section below. If its really valuable I will add you views along with your name in this blog itself. 

See you in another blog. Peace.✌✌